Creating Your Safety Plan: A Guide for Victims of Domestic Violence, Stalking, and Human Trafficking

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Creating Your Safety Plan: A Guide for Victims of Domestic Violence, Stalking, and Human Trafficking

If you are experiencing abuse or violence, whether from a partner, family member, stalker, or trafficker, it is essential to have a safety plan in place. A safety plan is a set of strategies designed to help you protect yourself and your loved ones in an emergency, and to give you more control over your situation. The Victim/Witness Assistance Office is here to help you create a personalized safety plan tailored to your unique needs. This guide will walk you through some of the steps you can take to reduce risks and respond effectively if danger arises.

Step 1: Assess Your Immediate Risk

The first step in creating a safety plan is understanding the level of danger you're facing. Consider the following questions:

- Do you feel threatened by the abuser or the situation? 

- Is there an immediate risk of violence or escalation?  

- Do you feel unsafe at home, at work, or in other places you frequent?

If you are in immediate danger or fear that the situation could escalate, it is important to take action quickly. Our office is here to help you assess these risks and make sure you have the necessary steps in place to stay safe.

Step 2: Create an Emergency Plan

A well-thought-out emergency plan is crucial in case you need to leave your home or a dangerous situation suddenly. Here are the key components of an emergency plan:

1. Escape Routes and Safe Places

- Identify safe places to go if you need to leave quickly, such as the home of a trusted friend, a relative, or a public space.  

- Plan several routes to these safe places in case your usual route is blocked or unsafe.  

- Consider safe, public places you can go to if you feel threatened on the street or in your neighborhood.

2. Pack an Emergency Bag

Having an emergency bag packed and ready can help you leave quickly if you need to escape. This bag should include:

- Identification (ID, passport, birth certificate)

- Financial resources (cash, credit cards)

- Medications or prescriptions

- Important documents (e.g., court orders, medical records)

- Clothing for yourself and children (if applicable)

- Phone and charger

- House and car keys

3. Code Word

Choose a code word or phrase that you can share with trusted people (friends, family members, or neighbors). This word should alert them that you need immediate help, but can’t speak openly about the danger.

Step 3: Establish Secure Communication

Having a way to communicate securely with trusted individuals is vital in case you are in danger. Here's how to set up safe communication:

- Create a list of emergency contacts - people you trust, such as friends, family members, or neighbors, who can help you in case of an emergency.

- Keep your phone secure: Set a secret PIN or password, and consider using a secondary phone (a "burner" phone) for emergencies, if possible.

- Block the abuser: Block the abuser on all forms of communication, including phone numbers and social media accounts. If you're being stalked or harassed, make sure to report this behavior to the authorities.

Keep a Journal

We recommend that you keep a journal or log of any incidents of abuse or threats. Documenting what happens can be vital if you need to file a police report, request a protective order, or pursue legal action in the future.

Step 4: Know Your Legal Rights

Legal protections, such as restraining orders, can help keep you safe and give you an added layer of security. Consider the following:

- Restraining Orders: The Victim/Witness Assistance Office can help you understand the process for applying for a restraining order to keep the abuser away from you. 

- Emergency Contact Information: Make sure you have the contact information for local law enforcement and shelters, so you can reach out for help when needed.

- Court Orders: If you have any existing legal orders (e.g., custody orders, divorce orders), make sure you understand your rights and protections.

Step 5: Secure Your Personal Information

If you believe your abuser may be trying to monitor or control your access to information, it’s important to take steps to protect your privacy:

- Change your passwords regularly for online accounts, such as email, social media, and banking.

- Monitor your credit: Regularly check your credit report and bank accounts for any suspicious activity.

- Use a "burner" phone: If necessary, consider using a second phone that your abuser doesn't have access to, especially if you're being stalked or trafficked.

Step 6: Plan for Your Children or Dependents

If you have children or dependents, you need to make sure they are safe as well. Here’s what to consider:

- Teach your children how to call 911 and provide them with a list of emergency contacts.

- Arrange for trusted caregivers to care for your children or dependents if you need to leave quickly.

- Make sure your children know what to do if they are in danger, including where to go and how to get help.

Step 7: Workplace and School Safety

You may also need to plan for your safety at work or school, especially if the abuser knows your routine. Consider the following:

- Notify your employer and school: Inform your workplace and your children’s school about your situation. This can help them implement safety measures, such as adjusting your work schedule or providing security escorts.

- Plan safe routes: Change your regular routes to work, school, or other frequent destinations to avoid predictable patterns that the abuser may track.

Step 8: Technology Safety

Technology can be used to track, monitor, or harass you, so it’s important to take steps to protect your privacy:

- Check your devices for any tracking apps or spyware. This includes phones, computers, and even GPS systems in cars.

- Use encrypted communication apps: For more secure messaging, use apps that offer encryption, such as Signal or WhatsApp.

- Be cautious with social media: Limit what you share online. Avoid posting about your location or plans.

tep 9: Prepare a Backup Plan

Having a backup plan is essential in case your first plan doesn’t work. Consider the following:

- Temporary relocation: In extreme cases, you may need to move temporarily to a different area or even a shelter. The Victim/Witness Assistance Office can help connect you with local shelters and safe houses.

- Long-term planning: Over time, you may need to relocate permanently, find new employment, or secure financial independence. These steps should be part of your long-term safety plan.

Why a Safety Plan Is Important

Having a safety plan in place is crucial for protecting yourself and your loved ones. A safety plan helps you prepare for emergencies, reduce risks, and make decisions ahead of time so you can act quickly when necessary. It also empowers you to regain control of your situation and gives you the tools to stay safe.

Remember, a safety plan is a living document—it can and should be updated as your situation changes. The Victim/Witness Assistance Office is here to help you develop, refine, and implement your plan. We can also connect you with resources to ensure your safety, support, and recovery.

Conclusion

Your safety is our priority. By creating a safety plan and having it in place, you can reduce the risks of further harm and feel more in control of your situation. The Victim/Witness Assistance Office is here to guide you through every step of the process, offering support, resources, and legal assistance as you take the necessary steps to protect yourself and your loved ones. Together, we can work to ensure your safety and help you rebuild your life free from abuse.

Domestic Violence Safety Plan Checklist

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Here’s a checklist to help you organize your safety plan:

Emergency Kit

• Identification (ID, passport, birth certificate)
• Financial resources (cash, credit cards)
• Medications or prescriptions
• Important documents (court orders, medical records)
• Phone and charger
• House and car keys

Escape Plan

• Safe places to go (trusted friends, shelters)
• Transportation options (bus routes, taxi service)
• Backup escape routes

Communication

• Trusted contacts list
• Code word for emergencies
• Block abuser on all communication channels

Legal Protections

• Obtain a restraining order
• Contact law enforcement for protection
• Keep legal documents up to date

Children’s Safety Plan

• Teach children how to call 911
• Designate trusted adults for emergency care

Technology Safety

• Change passwords regularly
• Use encrypted communication apps
• Check for spyware or tracking apps

Work and School Safety

• Inform your workplace and school
• Plan safe routes to work or school

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